Mum Had Not Eaten Much But...
She's not in too much pain...Slept calmly and peacefully. I've been there when they give her medicines but perhaps I should ask more what she is actually being given instead of just accepting what they do giver her.
I assume* it is painkillers(as she used to at home)and a sedative which they seem to give quite early so she is sleeping from 8pm onwards. That probably suits them more than Mum. As she sleeps a lot of the time anyhow, I wonder if that's too early.
She had not eaten much today but I managed to get some Ambrosia Banana Custard, A Complan, Cream of Chicken Soup and some fruit juice into her.
Tomorrow, she has promised to have some chicken so I will mince it into mashed potato and maybe add a little gravy for flavour. They said I can take it in. I also hope to go in sooner tomorrow and listen to Mum's favourite music show with her as we always used to at home.
*Am I wrong to and be so trusting?
I assume* it is painkillers(as she used to at home)and a sedative which they seem to give quite early so she is sleeping from 8pm onwards. That probably suits them more than Mum. As she sleeps a lot of the time anyhow, I wonder if that's too early.
She had not eaten much today but I managed to get some Ambrosia Banana Custard, A Complan, Cream of Chicken Soup and some fruit juice into her.
Tomorrow, she has promised to have some chicken so I will mince it into mashed potato and maybe add a little gravy for flavour. They said I can take it in. I also hope to go in sooner tomorrow and listen to Mum's favourite music show with her as we always used to at home.
*Am I wrong to and be so trusting?
posted by The Great Gildersleeve | 10:18 pm
5 Comments:
the thing about radio therapy is the positioning i think?
depending on where the little monster is, it can damage other things if it has to go through something else.. or because it has to go through something else it looses some of its power and causes the 'wounded' monster to mutate some more. If there is good clear shot at the bastard then it can zap it for good.
There's probably reasons Anon as you suggest. If they'd lay her on her front and part her bottom cheecks, its there!
I think they used to lay her on her back and the machine passed over her body and I assume sent its radiation generally through her stomach area towards the bottom area.
Its the old saying but for this she's quite fit/healthy and could've probably seen a few more years yet.
But I know many could say similar things and are younger than Mum. It doesn't make it any easier.
They had me sign a form yesterday with three simple paragraphs for legal reasons...they were explained to me in simple terms which made them sound OK and I assume everyone else in there has signed such a form...
One was to say I accept that she is in a bed with bars around the sides, that they take a photo of Mum and put it on the computer system, that I am happy to have the staff work with Dr's etc...to give her the care and medicines/treatment needed to help Mum be comfortable etc...
What was I going to say? And if I said no would they turf her out?
You hear so many stories I now worry will they do something they shouldn't and "Finish" Mum off before her time? Not that they'd admit it.
Mum still wants to come home and clings to that hope if she improves at all(how ever limited her time is)and smiles at the thought. We can have care here and I don't mind the extra work.
We may never reach that point of course. She is happier than being in hospital though.
It would be my/our choice and some think it is nicer to have her home where she wants to be and others where she is. I have to take each day and see where we are.
I don't think they're giving your Mum a sedative at 8pm to suit themselves , I think it's because they hope if she sleeps peacefully at night, & gets into a routine & therefore she'll be more alert during the day & then able to eat more, I don't think you're being too trusting.
Also, if they gave her a sedative too late, she'd be drowsy first thing in the morning.
They have to make you sign those things for legal reasons.
I think you should just tell your mum if she gets A LOT better she can comehome, but if she's happier there than she is in hospital, I wouldn't push to get her home soon . I think you're best to let the care home take the strain at the moment
A friend who has not been in touch for years has been and phoned me when she heard what I was dealing with after I texted her. She had a similar experience with her Father(Lung cancer)who died in a Nursing Home but wanted to be home.
She ended up being Marie Curie Nurse...
It was stark what she told me to expect and that for now the Nursing Home is the best option, to take each day one at a time don't think too far ahead, we not have that luxury but if we do lets think of the next step further down the line.
If that op wasoffered she thinks the General anethestic(sp?)is the main problem.
She also mentoned a friend who has a serious health condition and has lost her benefits and they said she was able to work(she appealing)and getting worse dealing with the appeal.
I forget what was wrong with her something quite hard to pronounce and serious. They say she can work in a call centre.
Our present situation is the priority but more for me to worry over when things do eventually happen.
I also have no guarentee I can stay where I am even though supposedly I am told otherwise by my Social Worker etc...and I have been here 50+ years and had my name on the rent card almost 30 years.
If moved I hope its a decent location but again if money is stopped they won't let me stay in a home, flat or whatever with no money coming in.
If pushed I will have to try and do the barest amount of hours and hope that I will still be given help. I am going to have to be very,very thrifty. Not much to look forward to.
But I will try and forget about all that for now.
Its Mum that is my priority.
You're quiet, Gildy.
Please manage just a few words to tell us how things are.
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