Don't See It As A Defeat Or Giving In...
and I could change my mind but I am thinking of seeing my Dr on Friday just to discuss things and see if he thinks that I am doing ok or need any help in case I have depression. Try and head it off before it happens or takes a hold. I may try and quiz a bit more about Mum and see if that puts my mind at rest...
posted by The Great Gildersleeve | 7:17 pm
11 Comments:
The devil finds work for idle hands.
I hope it goes well Gildy. As you say, you most certainly shouldn't see this as any form of defeat. Do let me know if I can help at all
Best wishes, Ian
Thank you Ian,
That is very kind of you. Much appreciated.
As for the other comment Anon, can I not be allowed to find my own way through my grief.
If you love someone it is not always possible(then again why should it be)to get over something so big in days and most who I talk to say that "You Never Do" you just find a way to deal with it and accept it.
I have said elsewhere I have seen/experienced depression when it is really bad and you can't just "Pull yourself together!" or "Snap out of it"
I have heard of where you can be ok for a year or two and then be hit with it.
I'll find my way through it probably mostly alone. After all six months has almost passed by already...where did that go?
Hallo Gildersleeve
if you feel very down then a visit to your doctor may help if only for a chat and to get things off your chest.
He/she may be able suggest ways to get you through things without taking medication, although that may help you in the short term.
Remember too that laughter is the best medicine and try and have some fun in real life and make friends with like minded people.
Best wishes
Heather
Thank you Heather,
Well you have seen how my recent theatre trips have helped, unfortunately that costs money. I keep hoping that avenue can be kept open next year but with the changes in income coming I don't know.
Thankfully I have booked some more shows in advance whilst possible.
If the public transport was more reliable and the fares less expensive there are quite a lot of free or not very expensive exhibitions/concerts etc...not that far away(two cities Durham and Newcastle)but from the end of October more bus services are being withdrawn or the times being changed so they are less frequent.
So in a way you are forced to spend more time in your own company and stay at home.
I will do my best to try and make friends as time goes on and perhaps all I need is a chat to put my mind at rest.
i think the quote is saying to keep yourself occupied,otherwise you can keep sinking into all sorts of thoughts that dont bare any relation on reality.Those in work often pour themselves into their job to cope with grief, but in your case just think about your good points and try and make into a hobbyor volunteer something that perhaps gets you out of house for few hours, that type of thing
Gildy,
You are right to discuss matters with your GP as to how you feel at the moment. I found it was months later, following the loss of my husband that it finally sank in he wasn't coming back or that I had to manage on my own. At the time I had returned to work so the devil didn't have time with me to make any work as my hands certainly were not idle !!!!!!
Regards
Judith
aka Magenpie
Judith,
I had forgotten about seeing my Dr tomorrow. It will do no harm and I do think I will be given any medication but it won't do any harm to have a chat, if I don't I will be waiting until he returns from his holiday.
Thanks...
For the other comments the thoughts I am having are based on reality and likely to happen. It could be if anything much worse.
If you think it's a good idea to see your doctor, Gildy, then it's a good idea.
Go for it, I say! :o)
Jan
Thank you...
Just realised I have not told what happened when I saw my Dr. Will post later(also about the fireworks display I went to)
It will feel a little strange today as I return all the items Mum had when she was unwell...
I planned to return only some as I use them and was told that I could by the person who gave them to Mum but once I had phoned they remembered "Everything" so if I want to try and keep them or have help I have to be assessed and I dislike contact with authority as much as I can so I will find my own way into the bath even if it is a bit of a struggle and the toilet seat is lower. I have kind of got use to it being higher.
You can buy toiets that are higher, don't know if my HA would spring for one or if I purchased it might install it for me...but I don't want to spend money if after doing so I have to relocate and leave it behind.
In a strange way they are my last connection with my Mum.
Tomorrow it is my regular check up at the hospital(I hope all will bewell)I have avoided the bus or taxi fare now I am wacthing what I spend but it means though my appointment is not until nearly lunchtime, the hospital transport could arrive as early as 8am. Still it saves saves money.
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