A New Day Dawns...

and I have no idea what will happen.

A neighbour visited Mum last night and could not have been nicer with her. Mum was really poorly and tired. But afterwards Mum said that she had enjoyed seeing her but added(even with her memory problems)she was sorry that she looked such a mess(Mum not the neighbour)and the house wasn't tidy. I am getting caught up but you can imagine its the least of my worries for now.

I mentioned something about a relative possibly coming to see her and Mum said something along the lines of "He's a relative so it doesn't matter!"

My neighbour has said that she will visit Mum when she goes into hospital. Now considering that she doesn't have to, what a nice gesture.

We may still have to visit hospital sooner than planned if certain little things persist but it has been suggested that at weekends hospitals tend to shut down a lot of their services so they prefer not to take patients in and if anything try to let people home so it really has to be an emergency. Its likely Mum would be in a bed with little to do and I would only be able to keep her company within visiting hours.

Not that there's much to do here.

Sadly, whilst trying to stay positive I have the feeling Mum is more seriously ill than we realise(I hope that I wrong)but I guess we will find out when tests are carried out.

I was hoping the water infection tablets(anti-biotics)might improve the dementia but I don't think that they have and yet this morning I asked some more questions to test the memory and all the answers were correct and they answered very quickly.

I guess I can add nothing more at present...if we get through the weekend things may start to move from next week...

Update:Whether its a good thing or not I have found forum that gives lots of support to those who may have bowl cancer and answers many questions. I have also discovered via NHS Direct that if a Dr suspects cancer you are given a maximum of two weeks to be referred to a specialist(and some friends have said)"That's a good sign that she wasn't rushed into hospital!" No, it appears if you are not using private health care that's how long you must wait.

And Cancer patients should wait no more than 31 days from the decision to treat to the start of their first treatment.

So that is not necessarily a reason to be positive.

Again today I found myself talking to some neighbours who gave me such support and a nice reaction compared to that other person I mentioned in a previous entry and said "What do you want me to do about it!"

Also, you do lose contact, I may have said before, with some family and friends, it just happens and my Father's side has kind fallen into that category but I thought as we are related, I have/should tell them what's happening. But what are they called?

Thankfully, I remembered a name, traced a phone number, chose the right person and had a lovely talk with this relative and he has promised to tell all the other brothers and sisters on their side. So that has taken some of the work load off my shoulders.

I have been through this before when I lost my dad almost 28 years ago so I have an idea what I will have to do, back then the saddest part was being given a little bag of personal items from the hospital and bringing them home and not him.

The memories are the most important thing of all but you know I cannot think of owning anything that belonged to him. Its no good keeping clothes that you cannot wear but when you get rid of them, its as if they were never here but they were.

The same will be true of Mum...there are such lovely outfits.

Mum has said she will leave me a kind of cross that means so much to her and brings her such comfort and faith and did for both of us when she was last in hospital, its very personal.

I don't wear rings and jewellery but my father bought me a black onyx gold signet ring which I haven't worn for years...I think I know where it is and I think that I will start to wear it again.