Care In The Community...
Well, we've just had a visit from the Early Outreach team of the hospital to assess Mum in the home. The Senior Physio called.
What a horrible woman! I took an instant dislike to her and I know Mum disliked her too. It's something that happens so rarely.
Mum has been doing all the exercises she was shown in hospital I have seen her doing so but this person insisted otherwise, practically saying Mum had not exercised since coming home...Mum has also been walking around her bedroom, to the bathroom and toilet, along the landing just for the sake of doing so...the only thing Mum and I needed was some advice on how to go downstairs via the stairs.
I didn't like the questions we were asked either. And many had already been asked numerous times. The quicker they stop calling(if the rest are like this person the better)I cannot really say there was a point to her visit. There wasn't a hint of compassion or encouragement. Mum asked if she was happy with her progress considering she's only been home since Friday. She would not commit. There was a coldness.
They all seem to have a problem about walking around the house and going into other rooms to see what's going on...if you have a large family and lots of visitors you may use the lounge and kitchen as a kind of meeting place. Friends and family passing through but when there only two of you even before Mum's fall we only stuck to the lounge and/or bedrooms. Once the meal is cooked in the kitchen we have no other use for it.
This person(many who work in this department)seem to think we want to keep popping into the dining room for example...why? We don't use it!
Equally, why would we want to keep popping into the kitchen to see what the other is doing? Especially, if you can hear each other as the rooms are so close to one another.
They are obsessed about not being in a bedroom. Many people young and old use a bedroom for more than just sleeping these days, it can be a place where the pc is, a tv, a telephone, a radio. Where you read a book, relax and listen to music sitting in a chair or laying on a bed. It can be warmer than downstairs etc...
I really don't know what the difference is whether you are in a bedroom or a lounge. It does not mean that you are depressed because you are in a bedroom. One of the nurses who is giving Mum her injections to stop blood clots has said herself that she loves her own bedroom.
Apart from the stairs(and Mum will walk up and down the stairs for the exercise)I can see no difference walking around a house to a bedroom and a landing.
The annoying thing is that the OT who assessed Mum all but accused Mum of doing no exercises since coming home...as an example Mum has done her exercises today and has been up and downstairs and in the last few hours she has walked around her bedroom numerous times, looked out of the window, walked along the landing numerous times etc...which does not match what she suggested and has probably written in her report.
Mum is trying to be independent which is what they want but as in any home you usually share tasks and/or do things for each other. But every day can be different, in a job you may have clear cut rules as to what everyone is allowed to do but at home probably it's less likely(well, it is in my home)
My auntie lives in what is a bedsit in all but name...you have to go up some stairs when you enter the property and then she has a bathroom/toilet, bedrooms and a kitchen but it is all on one level so what would they say to her if she stays in her bedroom which has to act as a bit of everything?
The problem is with so many of those who have been supposedly helping Mum one says one thing and another says something else...that has happened too often...They have a template and everyone has to fit it and often Humans have too many variables.
I don't feel that this home visitor was a good communicator with the public. A friend suggested a good word for this person's attitude...abrupt or brusque! To think that she is in charge, I wouldn't like her as my boss.
What a horrible woman! I took an instant dislike to her and I know Mum disliked her too. It's something that happens so rarely.
Mum has been doing all the exercises she was shown in hospital I have seen her doing so but this person insisted otherwise, practically saying Mum had not exercised since coming home...Mum has also been walking around her bedroom, to the bathroom and toilet, along the landing just for the sake of doing so...the only thing Mum and I needed was some advice on how to go downstairs via the stairs.
I didn't like the questions we were asked either. And many had already been asked numerous times. The quicker they stop calling(if the rest are like this person the better)I cannot really say there was a point to her visit. There wasn't a hint of compassion or encouragement. Mum asked if she was happy with her progress considering she's only been home since Friday. She would not commit. There was a coldness.
They all seem to have a problem about walking around the house and going into other rooms to see what's going on...if you have a large family and lots of visitors you may use the lounge and kitchen as a kind of meeting place. Friends and family passing through but when there only two of you even before Mum's fall we only stuck to the lounge and/or bedrooms. Once the meal is cooked in the kitchen we have no other use for it.
This person(many who work in this department)seem to think we want to keep popping into the dining room for example...why? We don't use it!
Equally, why would we want to keep popping into the kitchen to see what the other is doing? Especially, if you can hear each other as the rooms are so close to one another.
They are obsessed about not being in a bedroom. Many people young and old use a bedroom for more than just sleeping these days, it can be a place where the pc is, a tv, a telephone, a radio. Where you read a book, relax and listen to music sitting in a chair or laying on a bed. It can be warmer than downstairs etc...
I really don't know what the difference is whether you are in a bedroom or a lounge. It does not mean that you are depressed because you are in a bedroom. One of the nurses who is giving Mum her injections to stop blood clots has said herself that she loves her own bedroom.
Apart from the stairs(and Mum will walk up and down the stairs for the exercise)I can see no difference walking around a house to a bedroom and a landing.
The annoying thing is that the OT who assessed Mum all but accused Mum of doing no exercises since coming home...as an example Mum has done her exercises today and has been up and downstairs and in the last few hours she has walked around her bedroom numerous times, looked out of the window, walked along the landing numerous times etc...which does not match what she suggested and has probably written in her report.
Mum is trying to be independent which is what they want but as in any home you usually share tasks and/or do things for each other. But every day can be different, in a job you may have clear cut rules as to what everyone is allowed to do but at home probably it's less likely(well, it is in my home)
My auntie lives in what is a bedsit in all but name...you have to go up some stairs when you enter the property and then she has a bathroom/toilet, bedrooms and a kitchen but it is all on one level so what would they say to her if she stays in her bedroom which has to act as a bit of everything?
The problem is with so many of those who have been supposedly helping Mum one says one thing and another says something else...that has happened too often...They have a template and everyone has to fit it and often Humans have too many variables.
I don't feel that this home visitor was a good communicator with the public. A friend suggested a good word for this person's attitude...abrupt or brusque! To think that she is in charge, I wouldn't like her as my boss.
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